How To Be Happy

“What notion of love and friendship is still among humans?”


Watching people and seeing their empty eyes Lucy muses, “How is that humans have all but forgotten to love, not only each other, but themselves too. And when one does not love oneself, how can any human then love another? Oh, to give love without the expectation of love in return. Just to give, to share that feeling of being whole. Another ideal to achieve. What if …”

“Why?” Lucy asked the woman with the painted face and dyed hair. The empty woman voiced her fear of not being loved if her appearance no longer matched the expectations of her man.

Then Lucy thinks about Friedrich Salomon Perls. Did he not say once, “I am not in this world to live up to other people’s expectations, nor do I feel that the world must live up to mine.”

Aren’t expectations and the failure to live up to those often the fuel for anger? What if humanity would be more aware of its surroundings, less focussed on the individual? What if humans would let go of their need for instant gratification? Learn to live without expectations, or the need to live up to what is expected from them. Would they not be free? Happy? Able to express themselves in a way that fits the moment, not force themselves in the mold that has been prepared for each individual from conception to grave.

“Ah,” muses Lucy, “but that would be an ideal world. If humans could just be and not expect.”


Wouldn’t that bring true happiness to all humans, a sense of peace and content? “Ah, happiness,” whispers Lucy. “isn’t that what comes from within? Why do humans expect it to be given to them? How come there are so many humans so profoundly unhappy? When are they ever happy? When they have the most hits on their social media? That network of friends, which creates so much anti-social behaviour?”

Look around and no doubt you will see a man, his friend ready to have fun with a friend. But he has no eyes for him, for he is too busy typing with a message on his smartphone. No time for happiness up close. Why is it that what is near, is ever far? And drifts even further out of reach with every stroke of a key?

Isn’t it time to get rid of the rift causing technology and start talking again?

throw away phone


6 thoughts on “How To Be Happy

  1. Lucy, it’s true that we live in a world in which people expect others to make them happy. They are lazy and have grown up that way, with parents probably doing everything for them. And technology has added to this problem, which is why young people don’t know how to communicate. When I was a child, we made our own happiness, and therefore learned to be creative. And we used our play time wisely, because there was the laundry that had to be ironed, the garbage that needed to be taken out, the grass that needed to be mowed, the little brother that needed to be taken for a stroller ride, etc. This is how we also learned the meaning of being responsible. It seems all this has now gone by the wayside.

    • True, but without it a lot of people who are good friends now would also not have met. I guess it’s all to do with the person and how they let themselves be influenced by the technology.

  2. People need a certain amount of expectations: the sun will rise and set. Everything else is within you. I have the ability to love because God first loved me, but I do not expect everyone in the world to love me. That would be foolish. There are enough foolish people in the world.

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